It took sometime for me to get my head round to filing forms and documents through the Family Court. I miss Jeannette form Q'stown Courthouse. She was so helpful, when I 1st arrived in Queenstown, and had to represent myself, after the discharge of legal counsel.
The reason for discharge were, I could not afford, and it really cost so much in thinking it will help me, as everyone is saying, however in truth it does not. In my case, it had made it worst, because the representation is very limited and I have come to realization they say they can help to ensure fairness, but in reality they do not believe in fairness, hence they are not able to fulfill that. It is not a fault, it is just the way it is.
By representing myself, I would be able to tell the court without sensorship what my case of matter is that require jurisdiction to be applied. I do not need to negotiate what to present and what not, if I do this, then it disable The New Zealand Bill of Rights Act 1990, a statute of the New Zealand Parliament setting out the rights and fundamental freedoms of the citizens of New Zealand as a Bill of rights. It is part of New Zealand's uncodified constitution.
I am not learned in legal system. I am fumbling through, falling and scrapping, as I go along to have a voice to be heard, for my rights to be upheld, to the end I could look after my 3 children and provide to them what a parent do, give them safety and fend for them until they know how to fend for themselves, and provide to them the assurance they is always someone here for them they can rely on.
Likewise, I look toward the justice system, to provide me with safety and it can fend for me, to the end, I could fend for myself and in knowledge, it will always be there reliably.
To this end, I am had the unfortunate circumstance I am dealing with SA who does not understand any Bills of Rights of anyone.
I have been abused, violated, cheated, betrayed, threaten and deprived of any basic rights.
What do I do? What can I do?
I rely on my basic instinct, influence by my up bringing and living experiences in a society structure. I steer myself through the legal system, learning as I go, doing as I go.
Along the way, I may be fortunate to have people in these legal sectors who are helpful and the misfortune comes along when I come across people in these legal sectors who are not helpful.
In this instance, the person who had replace Jeanette were extremely unhelpful. There is nothing I could do, except I hope she will not be there for long, as she does not serve herself well and she does not serve those people who need help.
Similarly, as I present my case before the Court to elected judges, they are those who are helpful to ensure the rights are adhere to, and they are those who are not helpful who does not make sure the rights are adhere to.
Knowledge from this experience, I have a better understanding that the justice system may not always be applicable and relied upon. That is the way it is.
Where do I go from here?
The process need to be concluded. Life goes on.
I am now fumbling through, how to make a defence to not settle the agreement that was made under duress. I have to defend the application to settle urgently.
I have to defend why the agreement made under duress should not be upheld in the Family Proceeding Act 1980. I was under duress from SA actions. They are as follow
1.I was in an abusive relationship
a)physical, SA slap me on the face, grabbing me and pinning me down, pushing me against the wall
b)sexual, forcing me to have sex, blackmail me to go along to sex club, encourage his mates to grope me
c)psychological, telling me I have high expectation, lying all the time on all things, racist against me, sexualising on our daughter, her female friends, other young girls, female friends, female employee, female business associates
d)emotional, aggressive behavior towards me and 3 children in private and in public, denial aggressive behavior, dominating to control my movement, verbally aggressive and loud, unpredictable aggression
2.I was in fear for the safety of myself and my 3 children.
a)daughter safety, as she was abuse physically, intruding on her privacy and sexualized on her, blame her non obedience as to cause unhappiness in him which leads him to be aggressive
b)son's safety, negative role model, physical intervention to prevent physical abuse to me
3.My financial independence were forcefully taken away from me
a) stopping my salary, credit card
b) stopping the rents received
c)no maintenance, and minimal child support $68-$70 per month for 3 children
4.I had to defend myself in the justice system, when SA filed false application
a)Preventing children from travelling overseas
b)False affidavit to court, I have siphone funds from company
5.I was terrorized by SA manipulation and action
a)taking my passport away
b)coax staff to lock us in and out of residence
c)continued breaches of Protection Order
