Rain is always refreshing. On top of Queenstown Hills, the outlook from my bedroom balcony is simply awesome. Today is the first day of my coming out blog.
I hope to share, inspire and if it could help anyone, I am glad.
What do I have to do today. Brazilian BBQ is on the menu. Nope, suppose to be breakfast in bed, a treat from my youngest son. Ho...hum... however the TV pull got better of him, and he relented to the temptation of the square box. He makes the meanest egg and toast breakfast in bed. He introduced that to me, on my birthday this year and Mother's day too. Awesome card too.
Why did I start this blog. Just felt instinctively the thing to do this morning.............as I skype with Jessie this morning, and we touch on topic of Dalai Llama upcoming compassionate visit to Chch hospital as Jessie puts it.
In my typical philosophical diarrhea of the moment, comes this perspective.......what is he giving to these people he intent to visit?
I ask Jessie the question, is Dalai Llama going to provide solution to these people current be troubled life situation? Jessie reply, compassion visit. People are grieving............it be good for their soul.
Speaking from my own experience, though I did not get a visit from Dalai Llama when I was going through an extremely bad patch of my life, where the safety of my 3 children and myself were compromised, I lost everything I owned, no family around, have friends who tried to help but were hampered by the law enforcer, forced to be financially intimidated.....instead I received words and encouragement from social agency and the abuse woman network organization and from friends their generous temporary shelter of safety. This however did not provide me relief or solution to my circumstance. I am thankful but it did not change my situation. In reality, it made me emotionally worst off, as the feeling of helplessness increased.
I needed to regain my identity, access to my finance, my livelihood from a deceitful and manipulative person who until today continue to create havoc and harm to the four of us through the law enforcer.
However, I did made it through that bad patch, by sheer determination and belief the solution is there, good intention is not enough, action is what is required, and the only person who can act for "us" is ourselves.
Liken to Christchurch Earthquake, where families lost their identity, home, livelihood, though it is by mother nature, compared to my situation where it is family violence, physical and sexual, the scenario is similar, destitution. The solution is within each individual, as it was in me.
The compassionate encounter does not provide relieve, it only provide diversion from reality. Something need to be done to move forward. These compassionate visits does not provide that step for people in the unfortunate situation to move forward. It is each person themselves, YOU have to move forward.
Hence, I say, those that come with solution do not get anywhere to be allowed to help, those who does not provide solution receive enormous support for just being there.
The way this perspective of mine is establish, we know what we need to do to get things resolve for us, however our ability has been disabled by society system, then those that could not provide solution, they receive lots of support for just being there as the society system supports and encourages it.
Think about this, and reflect, as in everyone of us, I mean everyone, the solution is in ourselves.
My youngest son, just pop in with a plate and his "world awesome sunny side eggs" my breakfast in bed treat. I am so happy he is able to be around to do this.....in good retrospect.
